If you are working on a project that is environmentally harmful, for example, and you had not realized it, then listening to your haters can give you an important perspective to consider. Others' opinions can help you find ways in which you are coming across poorly.
Recognizing those ways will empower you to be better. You can use criticism as a lesson to take the high road. There will be situations when you can either fight back with others or you can do the right thing. You might be much more accomplished than those that are giving you a hard time. That being said, you should be humble in your responses. There is no need to brag or try to validate yourself further.
Instead, trust your own instinct and respond in a humble, respectful manner. Dealing with your haters is also a great opportunity to better handle conflict. You could be put in challenging situations, with someone calling you out in a big way on social media or at an event. Use these experiences as opportunities to learn to navigate conflict. Sometimes you can just take the high road but, in other situations, the response needs to be more nuanced.
Managing anger is also a great challenge in life. People might say things to you that invoke high levels of anger for a variety of reasons. Instead of lashing back, learn to respond calmly. Take advantage of all the negative words and actions you might be victim to. If you can stay composed in these high-pressure or anxiety-provoking situations, then you will learn to control your anger. Doing so will pay off countless times throughout life.
There are going to be many negative people in your life. Worrying about their opinions of you will only make you worse off. We cannot get everyone to like us. Therefore, haters serve as a great group to learn this lesson. We feel even less of an urge to get them to like us compared to people we might know better. Learning to accept that not everyone is going to like you will enable you to focus your attention on the things that matter more. These include being present, challenges at hand, and working to become a better person.
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Some people only hate you because of the way other people love you. You have haters because you did the work to improve your life. You have haters because you have risen above them. Her job makes her miserable.
Her husband is a bit of a jerk. Then she sees you, out there loving your life. She sees how happy you are with your job, your husband, and yourself. She seethes. Why do YOU get to have all of that, and she gets nothing? If Sally is very important to you, all you can do is be there to forgive her when she finds her footing again. Maybe your friend Betsy is doing pretty well right now. She has a good job that she really enjoys and a great love life.
Even though Betsy is perfectly content in her life, she still hates you because, in her eyes, yours is better. Once again see a pattern here?
A dream job. A gorgeous new house. Heck, even the last pair of discounted designer shoes that you saw first. There is nothing you should do to change it.
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